tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29310388.post7966813905400449916..comments2023-12-01T07:23:14.516+00:00Comments on fill my little world // a lifestyle blog: On being "weird"Beetahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07989964743649976680noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29310388.post-18836561368538823052013-09-25T09:36:45.044+01:002013-09-25T09:36:45.044+01:00if you've seen the film Donnie Darko there'...if you've seen the film Donnie Darko there's a scene in there where Donnie is walking the girl home, she calls him weird so he's boviously offended but she says 'no it was a compliment', being weird makes you interesting, not a plane Jane like people who are too afraid of what others think, that fear keeps them from being themselves. so if being yourself means being weird than i'd rather be crazy than boring.Cydneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05636130700391485900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29310388.post-60296125827627471432013-09-23T20:55:40.463+01:002013-09-23T20:55:40.463+01:00+JMJ+
I've always been "weird." So...+JMJ+ <br /><br />I've always been "weird." Sometimes I own it and ride people's incredulous reactions like a wave. At other times, I try to fit in a little better and am shocked at how much of an alien I actually appear to others! <br /><br />It seems as natural as breathing for me to do my own thing and pursue my own interests, but (and I don't say this in a condescending way) a lot of people seem happy to go with what others are doing and to take up what others are interested in. This is good for group harmony, I guess, but then it also means that someone who seems like a discordant note will be ostracised. Enbrethilielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03414765854670926854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29310388.post-35105461338098440502013-09-22T21:25:48.972+01:002013-09-22T21:25:48.972+01:00This is a brilliant post. I was brought to tears d...This is a brilliant post. I was brought to tears during my first year of university by two flatmates I overheard telling a boy they'd brought home how 'weird' I was. It was quite bizarre, as my time at secondary school had me in my friendship group as the crazy 'random' one (god remember when random was a thing? Eww) and to suddenly have my personality that I was actually quite proud of turned into an insult against me was bewildering and very hurtful. Eventually the girls in question and my other flatmates came to like my sense of humour, love of strange things and generally every other thing about me that would class me as 'weird', but I've never forgotten the things they said and it makes me very aware when they say thinsg about other people and criticize them for how they behave. <br /><br />Eventually i came to realise that they were the ones missing out. As your Alice in Wonderland quote says, the best people are those who don't try to be like everyone else, the people who take pride in being themselves. People who constrain themselves to being 'cool' are stuck, scared of being judged and therefore mocking anyone who reflected to them their own fears etc.<br /><br />But after that ramble I think I'm just trying to say that I agree whole heartedly, we are all different and we should enjoy that, rather than try to create clones who watch the same TV, wear the same clothes and have the same sense of humour. The world would just be... well boring as fuck frankly! <br /><br />Bella . <a href="http://usagi-bun.blogspot.co.uk" rel="nofollow">BELLAETC</a> Bella-Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04462124733020927860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29310388.post-91826872662971187442013-09-22T20:10:42.793+01:002013-09-22T20:10:42.793+01:00This is a really great post, and I have to ask, ho...This is a really great post, and I have to ask, how did your new raincoat cope in the rain?<br /><br />I totally agree with you that it's so much more interesting that everyone's different, with different hobbies, ideas and interests. It makes the world a lovely place because you never know who you'll come across. <br /><br />I think it's hard to let children know there's nothing wrong with being weird, often the cool and 'hip' things in school and what everyone wants. And for some reason people see following the crowd much more appealing than standing out, I suppose because people often get picking on for being different and an individual. I think it's awful that they do. My advice to children, to anyone, is to always be yourself. Ignore any negative comments and in the end any bullies will get bored of picking on you because you're proud of who you are.<br /><br />Very inspiring post!<br /><br />missisgoode.blogspot.co.uk<br /><br />xxxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12760798323769229105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29310388.post-85210085874916655412013-09-18T16:55:22.762+01:002013-09-18T16:55:22.762+01:00Thoroughly enjoyed reading that, and couldn't ...Thoroughly enjoyed reading that, and couldn't think of anything worse than a world void of individual quirks and traits, often at times weird because they're not what we consider normal to us. <br /><br />Firstly, I think the term weird requires some definition, if I can answer your question properly. There's, as I see it, two very subtly different and important ways we use 'weird'. In the first instance of your blog you refer to the 'weird' in a silly or obscure sense, which is everything from using 'incomprehensible gobbledigook' to pulling a silly face to experiencing an episode of the Mighty Boosh. This way it's friendly and almost warm use of the term, and if not warm, I think we can all agree it's pretty harmless and not really a criticism. <br /><br />In the second sense of 'weird', we see a darker side of it's usage, I personally for example have heard people refer to gay people as weird, and you yourself have come across being called 'weird' because you studied on the playground (though, I'm not sure that these people were being hurtful, I think we all know children that have been bullied because of a perceived sense of 'weirdness').<br /> <br />These are important distinctions, and I think we have to take the circumstance, tone and motivation into consideration when the word is used. Having said that, I think objectively the base use of the word is the same - weird - something alien to us, something we wouldn't do, or wouldn't imagine doing, it's just that the former way is not intended/shouldn't provoke harm - the latter can, whether intended or unintended. <br /><br />Children have to learn, as we did, on the job. Empathy and sympathy are both natured and nurtured, but so are senses of greed and selfishness. It takes time for us as humans to balance that into a proper morality, one that is built around, primarily, reason and rationality (bring on the religious argument of taught morality...). Moreover, humans have a very primitive 'othering' instinct, and when faced with differences at a young age it is not unusual for us to focus on them, labelling them 'weird'. I don't think that this will ever change - an understanding of how to treat other people, and an appreciation that we all have our own directions, despite them being weird to others, will always be part of growing-up.<br /> <br />The important thing that we all do is keep our children thinking throughout this period, by posing them moral questions to guide them to the right answers. I also have a personal belief that travelling and an understanding of other cultures help out hugely to understand the differences on a world scale, in turn allowing us to understand the differences that exist in each and everyone of us. Don't worry if your child is considered 'weird' or they think other children are 'weird' - it's about teaching and guiding them to realise that they're not weird, they're different and that that's one of the best things about the world. Then pull a silly face and silly voice and say, that's weird. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29310388.post-84867010493393548842013-09-17T21:32:14.774+01:002013-09-17T21:32:14.774+01:00I remember in school it was 'weird' if you...I remember in school it was 'weird' if you enjoyed learning, and actually did your work properly. I think once you get past the high school stage, 'weird' becomes more accepted and it's okay to be a little different, in my experiences anyway. <br />I mean, my flatmates at uni think I'm a little weird for enjoying the outdoors, and getting up early to take photographs... but it doesn't hinder our relationship!<br />It would be boring if everyone was the same! Kids need to realise that being different is okay, and I think parents would play a big role in doing that! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com